On Relationships.

Friendships. Situationship. Courtship. Ship! Ship!!!

Hi amigos,

This is to becoming intentional with any and every relationships we form. And to steer clear situationships.

The Golden Rule:

Treat others the way you would like to be treated.

Treating others well and just the way you would like to be treated is a life changing approach that can give you the chance to seek good in people while spreading positivity around.

You don't get it? It's simple;

You want to make friends with the people in your class. Start by treating your classmates the way you would like to be treated.

This is the first and golden rule to building intentional relationships.

The only reward of virtue is virtue; the only way to have a good friend is to be one.

FRIENDSHIP:

The first relationship you get to choose.

A true friend is a treasure, and having strong relationships is essential for a happy, fufiling life. 

Friends can help you celebrate good times and provide support during bad times. Friends offer companionship, friends can improve your sense of belonging and boost your confidence.

We all need friends, people that can have our backs anytime, any day.

And I say friendship is pivotal to your growth and to your journey of becoming.

Remember, quality over quantity with all relationships.

Because really, you are the average of the five people you spend most of your time with.

Also, friendship cannot be forced because sometimes we simply don't get along with others.

Moment Of Truth.

It takes effort to maintain relationships, it's a two-way street. It takes effort and intentionality from both ends to have a long lasting friendship.

Is it worth it though? Yes! 

And sometimes it's not about how long but how well. This holds true in friendship too.

#2 Recipe:

It's important to know your desired friend or partner's thoughts on relationships.

I mean find out their definition of friendship.

Sometimes friends fallout because they have different views on relationships;

Miss A and Miss B are friends. Miss A ideal friend is one who's loyal to her, Miss B on the other hand is friends with everyone and sees no reason for loyalty in friendship. Miss A notices this and starts to react negatively to Miss B, Miss B sees nothing wrong in her opinion. And since no proper communication was made, there's a fallout. 

The End.

Situationship:

Delulu!!!

A situationship is a casual, undefined, commitment-free relationship. 

Never allow yourself to go into an undefined relationship. You will regret it!! Especially if you're the one with expectations.

Because going on, it gets toxic and sometimes you're not just sure. And I tell you that's the first red flag, when you can say for sure "what this is".

This type of relationship often lack clear boundaries, commitments, and labels, which can lead to confusion and frustration. While situationships may seem convenient at first, they can quickly turn toxic and leave you feeling unfulfilled.

#3 Recipe:

If you're in a situationship and want to move things forward, a clear and honest conversation about your intentions is crucial. Be open with your partner about how you feel and what you want. It's essential to ensure that you both are on the same page in terms of exclusivity, commitment, and expectations.

In any case, make sure your relationships are defined.

COURTSHIP:

A committed romantic relationship with the intention of marriage. This is purposeful, defined and meaningful, the outcome of this may determine the picture of the future.

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• Know what you want, the qualities you seek in a desired partner and don't settle for less.

• Get clear on your deal breakers (what you absolutely won't live with) and keep an open mind.

• Communicate what you want, in a kind way and then move on from people that proves day in day out that they cannot get you there.

• Again, quality over quantity.

Courtship 101:

Be your own spec. Write down 20 qualities you want in your partner, asides looks, and then go on to tick which of those qualities you have.

And begin to work on the ones you don't have.

The psychology behind this is simple, we attract who we are.

Final words:

Go into new relationships with an open mind, make sure there is no baggage from the previous relationships.

Some of us have the tendency to sabotage great relationships, because we are yet to let go of our past and we have not allowed ourselves to heal properly.

Cheers to building intentional relationships 🥂.

Your special Adviser,

Victoria. 🤍