Heal.

Release the past and rebuild yourself.

Hi,

I write to you believing it has healing powers...

I hope you read this letter and you allow yourself to heal. Heal from pain, past traumas that broke you into a thousand and one pieces, broken relationships and everything that has hurt you.

I hope you forgive yourself, ruthlessly and frequently and you don't waste time thinking on the times you've lost.

I don't know whatever things you've heard about healing, but I need you to know that healing is not a destination.

Of course, you want to help yourself reach a point where you can look back and be grateful for how far you've come, where you have truly become comfortable in your skin and you now feel this inner peace.

But healing is never a destination. Healing is a journey, just as all of your experiences are a journey. When we take a journey and look back, we soon realize what we’ve gained, what has changed, and often can extract what we would do differently next time.

Healing may not be as much about getting better, as about letting go of everything that which isn't you - all the expectations, all the beliefs - and becoming who you are.

Your task is not to seek for love but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that has built against it.

 When we undergo healing, we are more equipped to help others heal since we are going through the process. Our bodies become lighter, our minds sharper, and our spirits lifted.

Healing can save your life, the lives of your family, and your friends and the lives of the people you meet.

It allows you to spread your light, the light that has outshined darkness.

We can speak from places of love and light more fully instead of just places of trauma and despair.

HOW TO HEAL:

1. SELF AWARENESS: In healing, it's important to accept and acknowledge where you are. You want be able to understand yourself better and see that pain is inevitable, adversities are inevitable and you are able to focus on what you can control.

You're aware of what you are mirroring. You know that the people in your life are mirroring something also. You acknowledge that it exists and you're able to recognize it and see it.

2. HOLD YOURSELF ACCOUNTABLE AND ASK YOURSELF THE HARD QUESTIONS:

This is self awareness put into action. You look at the situations at hand and ask yourself, "What is the real problem?", "How did I arrive here?", "What is my truth?."

These are facts driven questions that helps you get your fact about the situation and allows to be open and honest with yourself.

And on days when you're not doing your best, you're able to hold yourself accountablem without anyone's opinion.

3. GET RID OF VICES: Vices maybe be food, friends, alcohol, drugs, party and so on.

Vices are the things you rely on to just get by, to survive. I call them "coping mechanism" because they are temporal.

And while this may work, it's only for a short period and that's not good for you. Because on the long run, you will still have to face it, which may be harder than it should be originally.

A quick example:

I keep getting headaches everyday and I keep taking drugs for the headache daily. I do not bother to look into the source of the headache and eradicate the root of the problem.

The headache maybe from stress or some brain issue but if I don't look into the root of it, how can I solve the problem effectively?.

In short, get rid of vices because healing has to be done independently and individually.

4. STRIVE TO BE AUTHENTIC: I believe this is where a lot us panic, it's honestly not an easy one.

But Tiwa Savage had it right, when she said... "Say it like you mean it, it's never a bad thing".

Don't hold back on expressing yourself, what hurt you and your boundaries.

Say how you feel, say your true feelings and be honest about your emotions.

Pent-up emotions is never okay, because you will always go back home, replaying those conversations and wishing you actually expressed yourself.

Have that conversation, at times it might not be immediately but make sure to have that conversation and say how you really feel regardless of how they may perceive it or what they may interpret it to be.

Seee!!! You have to free yourself. Don't shrink yourself to make other people comfortable.

5. STAY SPIRITUALLY ROOTED: Only God can truly mend your broken pieces together. Submit your healing journey to him and allow him walk you through the process.

There are some traumas that we don't even recognize, one thing at a time, God will show you.

He will build you up again and help you find peace.

Stay committed to praying and connecting with him through the holy books.

Once you’ve gone through the experience, you may ask: “How do I know if I am healing?"

1.     You are able to accept your experience, instead of pushing it away.

2.     You can experience your emotions and make them work for you.

3.     What scared you before becomes acceptable and manageable.

4.     You begin to make changes.

5.     You understand that there is something more for you than brokenness.

6.     You find yourself talking about your happiness, instead of your suffering.

7.     The physical symptoms begin to ease—the pain in your body, the emptiness, sleepiness, etc.

8.     You find yourself enjoying your life.

This is healing, at it's most basic. Are you ready to take next step?

Love,

Victoria. 🤍